It is so easy to fall into a rut with complaining but it
casts a shadow on whatever the experience was, even if the problem was minor.
Even “helpful suggestions for improvement” register as complaints to
the other person. So be sure to exercise your mind and also come up with
several positive observations to share.
Does every issue or annoyance need to be voiced?
I don’t think so.
I get it, life can be frustrating and things don’t always go
smoothly. But that has always been the case. Adding fuel to the tension of the
situation by eye rolling and grumping and slamming things around does not help
anything work more smoothly and it opens the doors for other issues.
Honestly, some things are not worth complaining about.
And some things are.
The principle behind The Boy Who Cried Wolf comes to mind in a time like this. If you complain about everything, then people tend to turn you “off”, ignore you, or label you as immature. And when you have something important to say, they have been trained to blow you off.
Yes, there are times a complaint is warranted, but be
careful lest complaining becomes a regular part of your personality emissions.
It’s a habit that does not draw people in. It’s true, life is not all roses and
buttercups – but, whatever your particular situation happens to be – there are
people way worse off and dealing with much bigger issues and not making a huge
issue out of it. Negativity might get you some action but you can compel more
people into action when you choose your words and approach with care.
21 The wise in heart are called discerning,
and gracious words promote instruction.
22 Prudence is a fountain of life to the prudent,
but folly brings punishment to fools.
23 The hearts of the wise make their mouths prudent,
and their lips promote instruction.
24 Gracious words are a honeycomb,
sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. [Proverbs 16:21-24, NIV]
Want to address an injustice? Fight on behalf of someone who
needs help. Don’t be so caught up in yourself and the inconveniences you
experience that you miss the bigger picture.
Learn to do right; seek justice.
Defend the oppressed.
Take up the cause of the fatherless;
plead the case of the widow. [Isaiah 1:17, NIV]
and grumbling are habits. Bad ones. You don’t have to gloss over bad behavior
but as you look for your voice, find one that speaks Truth but also can be
listened to. If you intersperse a tiny bit of truth in an angry and accusatory
presentation, it will be lost.
are you fighting for?
PrayerPrompt: REACTION vs. RESPONSE