Why are so hard on ourselves?
Of course, there is always room for improvement. But something doesn’t have to actually be “perfect” to be a success. For me it takes work not to pick apart how something could have been better and just be thankful that it was good, even if it wasn’t perfect.
Why is it that our failures (real or perceived) are like flashing neon signs – always trying to grab our attention?
Maybe it is a good way to keep me humble. Typically things
aren’t all good or all bad, I can look at things on a 1-10 scale. And even if
it was a miserable experience, there is usually something I learned and, in
that case, there was something redeemable about it.
What about when we do “everything right” and
things still go awfully wrong. Are we really in as much control as we think?
Everything hinges on something and not everything is in our power. We don’t
have control over others. We only have control over our actions and responses.
And even when we do things perfectly, there is no guarantee the outcome will be
what we were hoping for.
Are there some days just getting out of bed and facing the day is an achievement?
I think so.
Success and failure are in the eyes of the beholder. What
the world pushes us towards and what God is nurturing in our hearts are likely
very different things. Who do you listen to when you are evaluating success?
My flesh and my heart may fail,
but God is the strength of my heart
and my portion forever. [Psalm 73:26, NIV]
May you view your activity with through God’s eyes!
It is so easy to be moved from being satisfied to dissatisfaction when we allow our own or someone else’s expectations run the show.
Not all expectations are bad. I am referring to the expectation that you will be able to pull off the unrealistic perfect family gathering this weekend! We see those photos in ads where there aren’t any dirty dishes or dust bunnies and every outfit blends or coordinates with every outfit in the photo and all of that is accented by the perfect food, makeup, and….well, the list goes on. Media and advertising have painted unrealistic and unattainable “picture perfect” moments for us to try to reproduce in our own homes.
Can you imagine how long it takes to set up those photo shoots?
And when we aren’t able to pull it off we become dissatisfied with what we have.
Don’t do it. Don’t go there.
Folks, it isn’t happening at our house. We won’t be serving perfection but we are serving love, forgiveness, mercy, and grace. We have been busy with life so we might be a wee bit tired and the house isn’t perfectly clean. We didn’t buy new dresses. We probably won’t be color coordinated but we will be enjoying one another’s company. When it is time to share the big meal, my goal is for all the food to be ready at the same time but even that isn’t always easy.
Expectations. Sometimes they kill the joy of the moment!
God sent Jesus in an unexpected way to save ordinary people like you and me. Jesus died an unimaginable death to set things right with God on our behalf. This isn’t the picture perfect situation by the world’s standards but God’s love for us is perfect, so this evidence of God’s love is perfection.
God has given you His all. Ask Him to open your eyes and heart to be satisfied with all He is and all He is doing.
Thank You, Father, for Your perfect love!