Getting worked up

In the end, I don’t think we have as much control as we think we have or as much as we think we want. We can, however, control our reaction to things.

What is getting your goat today?

Is someone acting differently than normal and you are confused?

Is someone behaving as they normally would and you are just wishing they didn’t act like that?

Are you afraid?

Are there circumstances that you can take some personal action on but the whole situation feels so big and unmanageable?

Where can you start?

My encouragement is to start by giving the situation to God.

When I find myself in this type of situation I take a walk and talk to God.

Out loud.

I talk through it. I as Him to work on the situation. And show me what He wants me to do. And if there is some way I should be involved to bridge the gap, I ask Him to point that out to me.

I may have a role in the solution beyond my prayers. And it might not be easy. I can offer my part but that doesn’t guarantee the response from the other parties.

But, giving it to God is my first step. And trusting He is working on a resolution is my second step.

What do you need to hand over to God today?

Offense or defense?

What is your prayer posture?

For me, it all depends.

Sometimes there is an immediate need or situation I am praying for: healing from illness or injury, peace in the midst of a difficult circumstance, or protection when I know someone is in peril.

Other times, I am just praying much more generally for someone — in advance of any need I know about, but will surely come their way. In terms of my kids or grandkids it might be things that occur in their lives after I am no longer on this Earth.

It is easy to see that praying for others can take quite a bit of time. As we get older and spend less time doing and more time being, we may more easily find the time to pray.

But, we can also start today!

Do you have someone you can pray for through all of their upcoming life stages? I have my grandkids in mind. We have two 5 year olds and a 3 year old. They have a lot of life coming up and I am praying for them and all their upcoming life experiences.

Whose life are you covering in prayer?

Sometimes it starts with seeing a need

Who do you pray for?

I have a typical list of people I pray for. And then I have the people I pray for by circumstance and situation — it’s more like a blanket prayer.

And then there are people I pray for that for some inexplicable reason they are on my heart. Of course, I can explain it. It isn’t inexplicable, it’s just that God put them on my heart for some reason.

I often know precious little about them or their situation. And, as I mentioned before, I don’t need to know the situation. I don’t even need to know them. My prayer isn’t a cop out for not physically doing something for them. It is doing something.

It isn’t a last resort, it’s a first resort.

In my opinion, praying for someone is a high honor. Saying their name before God and asking Him to protect them or provide for them in their need is important.

Who do you know that may not have anyone praying for them? In addition to your regular prayers, add them to your list. If you have a perspective to see their need — even if you are wrong about that — if you are moved to pray for them, do it!

This doesn’t mean you won’t ever take other action on behalf of that person or others. But, I believe that in the praying not only are you interceding for them, God is using your responsiveness to make you more aware of the needs of others. Who knows? He may be growing something inside of you that is an angle that He would like you to pursue.

Sometimes it starts with seeing a need.

Cynics, Skeptics, and Discernment

A cynic is a person who habitually expects things to go wrong, or questions the value or worth of things; a person with a negative, pessimistic, or mistrustful outlook. [oed.com]

A skeptic is a person who doesn’t believe something is true unless they see evidence. Skeptics are doubters — they need to see proof before they will believe. [vocabulary.com]

A jaded person has seen enough of a particular situation to know when to move on and try to find something better, a cynic just has an underlying distrust of everything and therefore will not find anything better.

Discernment is the ability to tell things apart—to separate them, even when they appear to be very similar. People with discernment are able to make keen observations about things. Discernment is often thought to be an ability of those with wisdom or experience. It often involves making a judgment, especially about things that aren’t obvious. For example, it takes discernment to accurately judge someone’s character. [dictionary.com]

All of us have been in a situation where we have lost trust in something (an institution) or someone. How we move forward from that experience is really important.

I have certainly been cynical, skeptical, and/or jaded at different points in my life. And when a certain action brings up a feeling I have felt before, I tend to try to discern what the situation is.

I don’t want to be stuck in one of those modes because it truly is against my general nature. However, there are unhealthy people and unhealthy systems out there. During our lives we are bound to run into a number of them.

They are even in the church!

I won’t get into all the details, but, I have been up close and personal in numerous situations where “people of God” were doing some ugly things.

And somehow, my faith in God’s goodness and purity and love was not damaged.

I am so thankful!

Of course, my faith and trust in people has been affected. So, pardon me if I don’t trust so easily.

Having experiences where you come out a bit cynical, skeptical, or jaded might serve to sharpen your discernment. As long as you don’t get stuck in those places it can help you have empathy when people are there.

Let God use all experiences to grow your faith and understanding.

Switching Seats

Have you ever been in a moment of deep frustration over how communication is going with someone?

I sure have! And, thankfully, I have a couple of people I can go to to share my relational dilemmas. I hope you have a few people like that in your life!

Recently, one of my people (Person A) was sharing one of their dilemmas. I have no connection to the person whose actions she was trying to understand (Person B). I think that helps. I am not neutral by any means, but I didn’t have a negative or positive idea about Person B.

As she described the scenario I was trying to think of a word picture to better understand the situation. I came up with one and shared it. As a verbal processor I couldn’t help myself. And, while my idea didn’t hit the mark, sharing it helped. Then I thought a little more about the situation — and really tried to “sit in the seat” of this other person and understand their actions.

Depending on our mood or how deeply we are intwined with a situation we might be able to “switch seats” and look at some potential perspectives of the “offending” party. But, sometimes we might benefit from some help from someone who is a little more neutral and can take a step back and try to look at the dynamics and come up with some possible scenarios. Sometimes “switching seats” will diffuse the situation enough that a calm conversation can happen.

As always, ask God to shed His light, perspective, and discernment on a difficult situation. If it is a very complex one you can also check in with a 3rd party who can be relatively neutral. And sometimes you will need a completely neutral 3rd party. You won’t go wrong if you seek to understand.

My big project

Would you take a moment out of your day today to pray for my big project?

I am hosting the Hungarian Heritage Expo for the second time. it is an online event for people who are excited about Hungarian heritage and culture. And it really is great fun.

We have some great presenters and it is so fun to work with them. And the speakers and I are working hard at promoting. I am flinging it out into the world and my prayer is the people who need to see it will see it.

We did one last year in July and it was a lot of work but it was also fun. I was definitely out of my comfort zone on parts of it but I still enjoyed it. And then it came time to create our catalog and I committed to doing it twice in 2025. Once is this week and the next one in August.

Had I not made that commitment in August to the people who receive the catalog, I surely would have forgotten how much fun the last Expo was and let it fall by the wayside. Or maybe only have done one, not two.

Now that I have the experience of the first one under my belt, it is much easier this go around. But it is also interesting how many of the processes and procedures I have forgotten about in the months since the last event. I am sure that will smooth out once I get my rhythm for the Expos down.

It seems I like things that require bursts of energy and intense focus and change up what can become routine. I think it is how I am wired because I seem to lean towards those things.

So, cheers to August 2024 Liz who committed to something and to March 2025 Liz for executing it. And a huge shout out to my husband, Don, who does endless editing for this event to happen! Please pray for the success of the Hungarian Heritage Expo!

I am so thankful that I am in a place in life where I can pursue these passion projects. My prayer is that it if it is an area I am meant to pursue that God makes it abundantly clear. Or, more importantly, that He gets my attention when I am going the wrong direction. Sometimes I am slow to see His signs. I always need His wisdom and discernment!

By Situation

Sometimes you might notice that a lot of people in your world are struggling with similar things. Or there is something big happening in the world.

Present those people to God by situation.

You probably already do this. I mentioned yesterday that sometimes we drive by an accident and we have no idea who is involved. But you can be sure God does.

And when you know of big things happening in your community, state. country, or our world it is easy to think we have so little to offer. But I would like to challenge that. Of course, prayer is the first place we should turn to. Interceding for situations — whether they are within our reach are not — should always be our first step of action.

Then, as we bring the circumstances before God, He may give you ideas about how you can go beyond the intercession and contribute tangibly to the solution. Sometimes we are encouraged to take the next step and make a donation of money/goods or we might decide to volunteer for a day, a season, or a year. It’s hard to say. There are so many ways for us to serve. I believe God puts things on our hearts and then He is happy to help us discern our next moves.

As I think about bigger situations, and my goodness, there are a lot of them happening now with war and wildfires and outbreaks and so much division on so many levels.

I pray for the leadership of the bigger situations, whether or not I agree with them. I pray for God to work through the circumstances so people can see His provision and recognize God for who He is and to become aware of their contribution to the problem.

I pray for those who are decision makers to be humble and to really take stock in what they are doing (or not doing) for the good of the people.

And, I pray that those with their hands in the situation will have a moment where they really see God has loved them all along and that He desires for them to know the Truth.

What situations are heavy on your heart right now? Go straight to God with them — even if you don’t know what to say. I often will pray for peace – even though I have no idea what it will take for the circumstance to reach peace. God knows. And I know He has been working on it. He sees the much bigger picture. He sees these situations through the eyes of generations. I get glimpses of that when I read the Bible and see how many years people were in captivity and how many years they wandered in the dessert. Some things take a long time to come to fruition.

We are in a world that is full of sin and selfishness. My own included. Taking time to intercede for bigger situations helps me remember that life isn’t all about me. There is a bigger world out there that needs our prayers!

Slow Down

I have a friend who I really enjoy but don’t get to chat with very often because we both have busy schedules and we live in different states. I often text her a quick greeting or a quick question and, if she can, she calls me back for a few minutes. The other day I sent a short message and she responded with a phone call.

But, this time was different.

We got through all the “official business” we needed to get through and then she said, “How are you and Don doing?” I explained we had been ill for several weeks and a few other things.

It is so easy to get caught up in our own drama.

Then I was prompted to ask, “How are you guys?” I do believe God nudged me to do that. It isn’t that I don’t care. Sometimes I try not to take too much of someone’s time and I cut short my natural inclinations of care and concern to not be a bother. But I am so glad I asked.

I had absolutely no idea, but she is going through some challenges on several fronts and I listened and asked a few questions. We weren’t in quick text mode — it was the share-your-heart conversation mode. She is in the middle of a lot. It’s not what one expects as you get close to all kids being launched. But then, not all launches go perfectly. And then with aging parents on the other side, well, you get the picture. Sometimes life gets messy.

She didn’t expect me to solve any of her situations. She simply shared her heart. And I am so thankful she trusted me with the less-than-glamorous parts of her life. I have been praying for her and her sweet family ever since.

I could have easily tried to “respect her time” and not ask how she was doing. She was intentional about asking me the question first. And I am thankful I asked the question of her.

Of course, there are times when things are hectic. But, by and large, it is important to slow down and check in with your people. Ask how they are doing and get ready to listen to the answers. You’ll be strengthening your friendship as well as deepening your prayer life as you intercede for them.

The Empty Tomb

The empty tomb is full of promises kept.

Jesus fulfilled that which we could not.

From start to finish

From beginning to end

From now until forevermore

God makes the way by providing what we need for this life and the new life to come.

Come, Lord Jesus. Be our guest. And let thy gifts to us be blessed. Amen.

He is Risen!

He is Risen, indeed!

Alleluia!

What is to come

Sometimes we want to know how “it” is going to happen. Or when “it” will happen. But, mostly, it seems, we don’t get the heads up. Things happen and we are either ready for it or we are not and we need to switch gears.

Sometimes the anticipation is more anxiety producing than the event we are expecting or dreading.

God is there. He is here, now. And He is there, in our next steps. And He will carry us through in ways we mY not be able to put into words.

Some of our “to comes” are things we are dreading…things we don’t want to walk through, witness, or endure.

Even as we think about Jesus’ betrayal, suffering, and death — not something to look forward to experiencing. Yet, in that ugliness God gave us an unimaginable gift.

May we view our uncertainties and difficulties knowing that Jesus understands our pain and will lead us through them. God’s unimaginable gift is for us each and every day.

Heavenly Father — Thank you for Jesus’ sacrifice. It allows us the gift of everlasting life. Amen.