Setting the tone

It’s a heavy week in the Christian world. There are so many moments — highs and lows — and I feel them.

From Jesus coming to the people, riding on a donkey…

“Blessed is He who comes in the name of the Lord! Hosanna, Hosanna in the highest!”

to the dark days of deception and distance and darkness and death…

to the Resurrection!!!

And everything in between! So much is happening.

And while we can read about it sometimes we can even feel it. It may feel more real as we sit in a worship service during this week and hear The Word preached or it may be wrapped up in our confession or creed or a hymn. It can also be felt and, maybe, better conceptualized when we see a re-enactment or watch a film about it —

For me, at least, it is so hard to imagine the triumph of this week in the midst of the deep darkness, but it is worth wrestling with. It helps me understand just a little bit more about the depths of God’s love for me and what He has done for me.

The sacrifice. The death. The resurrection.

God’s provision for us is all encompassing. It is the beginning and the end.

He is the beginning and the end. And everything in between.

May your week be filled with awe and wonder at the heights and depths of God’s love and provision for you!

Little things add up

Every day I walk in my neighborhood I take my trash grabber with me and a bag for collecting trash while I walk. It is amazing how much trash there is floating around on a daily basis. The worst days are when it is windy on trash pickup day. Things blow all around.

Here and there, it all adds up. These all can be labeled in different ways:
Cigarette butts
Little alcohol bottles
Fast food trash
Yard trash
Tools
Masks
Gloves
Candy wrappers

Every day I walk around the neighborhood I come back with a plastic grocery bag full of trash. And it is a result of a variety of contributions from the neighborhood and as well as the people who drive through it.

And it makes me think about the daily things in my own life. I have my own bad habits, good habits, dangerous habits, healthy habits, careless habits, caring habits, mindful habits, and mindless habits….

As I gather up the collection of things in the neighborhood “on the daily” or “on the weekly” it is a bit of a reflection of what I am doing with my own life. Am I being intentional about cleaning up some of those bad habits? Have I become so accustomed to them that I don’t even see them anymore? I bet the people in my life notice them even if I don’t. And I have some little eyes and ears around every week who see and hear my reaction to things. I don’t want those little ones to catch bad habits from me.

As you think about your daily habits, be encouraged by your healthy ones. And consider working on one of the unhealthy ones. We all have some of both. But, if you find a habit that is blocking your progress in another area of your life, it might be time to make a change.

Establishing a new pattern can help bust an old habit. God knows how we are, but He also desires us to be moving towards healthier choices and better ways of communicating. If you take an honest assessment of how you are doing and offer it to God, He will surely equip you with resources to overcome those areas where you need a little help. He absolutely loves you just as you are. And He wants to be with you as you grow in love, grace, mercy, and forgiveness!

Measuring Progress

Yesterday was about measuring success.

Today let’s talk about Measuring Progress.

Two steps forward and one step back is progress. Over time, you will still get to where you are going. Sometimes it doesn’t happen as quickly as you want.

You might regress a bit, revert to a previous state, or return to spot while still, in the big picture, be making progress.

I read a book a couple of years ago “Start More Than You Can Finish” by Becky Blades https://www.beckyblades.com/

and it really shifted my perception….

of myself!

I sometimes start things and don’t finish them and can beat myself up over it. I can certainly learn something from making a commitment and following through. But, not everything I try is for me.

Maybe that is why I didn’t keep up with baton twirling when I was in elementary school. I took a class at the YWCA. I had fun and learned how to move the baton through my fingers — I still can!!!! But, that was the beginning and the end of my interest.

I thought I wanted to be a lifeguard and so I started working toward that in high school but then I just didn’t love the water that much. I still don’t. I like a jacuzzi. I am happy to hang out in a lake or ocean and go snorkeling but I am not a swimmer for swimming’s sake.

Sometimes a new project reminds me of an old project and I find my way back to it. Sometimes things just need a bit more incubation time before they are ready to be fully explored. Sometimes it is just a season of life.

You didn’t mean to set down that book your started to read or write but something interrupted you and you never got back to it. Life can be like that!

I want to encourage you to take some big steps back when you are measuring progress. Don’t get so focused on the immediate results that you can’t see the bigger picture.

One thing that strikes me about God is that He is the God of generations. He is the Creator. We each have our own bents and inclinations and He works in and through those. I am far harder on myself than He is on me. He knows my flaws so well and, yes, He wants me to leave sin behind. But, He also knows that I am a sinful human operating in a world filled with sin.

He loves me. And, He loves you!

Your progress is imperfect. Your life’s journey might be bungled with mistakes — I am sure that is the case for everyone. But the love God has for you is extensive and true. Rest in His grace. Keep moving forward in love — for yourself and for those around you.

The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. [Lamentations 3:22-23, ESV]

Default Responses

If I am feeling off and then have what I consider a challenging conversation, you might find me responding in my “default” setting.

I would love to say my default response is grace, love, and soft like a little bunny but it isn’t always.

When I am feeling vulnerable, depleted, or unappreciated I may respond with some ugliness.

This is why it is so important for me to anchor my day with God. Remembering His love and provision for me and acknowledging His grace, mercy, forgiveness, and love. It doesn’t make my responses perfect. But, if I get too many days away from remembering His work in my life, I more easily switch into a default response.

Slow Down

I have a friend who I really enjoy but don’t get to chat with very often because we both have busy schedules and we live in different states. I often text her a quick greeting or a quick question and, if she can, she calls me back for a few minutes. The other day I sent a short message and she responded with a phone call.

But, this time was different.

We got through all the “official business” we needed to get through and then she said, “How are you and Don doing?” I explained we had been ill for several weeks and a few other things.

It is so easy to get caught up in our own drama.

Then I was prompted to ask, “How are you guys?” I do believe God nudged me to do that. It isn’t that I don’t care. Sometimes I try not to take too much of someone’s time and I cut short my natural inclinations of care and concern to not be a bother. But I am so glad I asked.

I had absolutely no idea, but she is going through some challenges on several fronts and I listened and asked a few questions. We weren’t in quick text mode — it was the share-your-heart conversation mode. She is in the middle of a lot. It’s not what one expects as you get close to all kids being launched. But then, not all launches go perfectly. And then with aging parents on the other side, well, you get the picture. Sometimes life gets messy.

She didn’t expect me to solve any of her situations. She simply shared her heart. And I am so thankful she trusted me with the less-than-glamorous parts of her life. I have been praying for her and her sweet family ever since.

I could have easily tried to “respect her time” and not ask how she was doing. She was intentional about asking me the question first. And I am thankful I asked the question of her.

Of course, there are times when things are hectic. But, by and large, it is important to slow down and check in with your people. Ask how they are doing and get ready to listen to the answers. You’ll be strengthening your friendship as well as deepening your prayer life as you intercede for them.

Patience

It took about 9 months, but my grandson let Miss Emily cut his hair with the clippers today.

He was terrified of the noise. He had some bad hair cutting experiences at some Kidz Cutz kind of place. Very noisy. Too loud and scary for a little dude.

So Miss Emily played it cool. Starting last May our grandson just came along with us when we went to her house for our haircuts.

The next visit he peeked out from the living room and sang her “The Excavator Song.”

The next visit she let him sit in her mini motorized semi truck and let him drive it around the yard when she was done cutting his hair. He was thrilled to drive that semi on the grass.

The next time it was too hot to cut hair outside so we moved inside. He sat up in the chair on a box and let her cut his hair.

But only with scissors.

Then in October, November, and December it was just scissors and he was allowed to play with the mini blow dryer.

Until January, when she let him hold her battery operated clippers. He played with them. Turned them on and off and on and off and…..well, you get the idea.

And she gave it a shot and she used them. He just wasn’t exactly aware.

But, today he hopped up in the chair first.

He loves visiting Miss Emily.

And he didn’t complain that she used the clippers. He just wanted her to put the guard on. And he very sweetly said, “I like it better when you cut my hair with scissors.”

Miss Emily wanted to win him over and that she did. She did it with love and patience.

Love and patience can win a lot of people over. God shows us that time and time again!

Compassion

It is much easier for me to think about forgiving others when I have taken stock of my own sins. I have plenty of them. Some have been traveling companions throughout my life.

I have a little stockpile of regrets and I imagine others might, too. How do I want my regrets received when I verbalize them? And how might I respond when others speak of their own regrets? We have all done things we shouldn’t have and we have all left things undone.

I don’t have to look very far to know that showing grace, mercy, and compassion to those who are sitting with regret. Sometimes the stories are difficult to hear. Sometimes there is no earthly resolution. But, there is the peace that God can give.

Confession is good for the soul. Our own regret can deepen our compassion for others. God longs for us to come to Him in confession. And we can offer to others the forgiveness and comfort we have received from Him.

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 NIV

Background noise

I have been a little more sensitive to noise lately. I wore headphones when I flew earlier this month. They were not total noise cancelling headphones but, wow, they sure dulled the roar of the plane. It was amazing the difference when I had them on.

What kind of background “noise” is going on in your mind and soul as you move through a day? Is it helpful? Kind? True? Sometimes the rumblings are anything but positive. And it is important to root those out and replace them. Sometimes they are one liners that were tossed your way during your childhood, maybe they were words from someone you trusted, or maybe they are thoughts you have about a circumstance.

Sometimes we are so used to hearing background noise that we don’t even realize its there. But it can shape our day, our week, and even our life.

Below are some Scripture verses you might consider inserting into the “noise” of your day. Turn up the volume on these! They are powerful and worth pondering. You can doodle them, embroider them, write them out and put them in places around your living space. They probably all have a song written based on them. Surround yourself with good news — good words. And share those with others, too!

Be willing to investigate some of the background noise you have been listening to. Chances are they are not good, helpful, kind or true.

Have some other favorites to share? I would love to see them!

John 16:33 (ESV)
“In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”

Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Philippians 4:6–7 (NIV)
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Psalm 34:4–5, 8 (ESV)
I sought the LORD, and He answered me and delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to Him are radiant, and their faces shall never be ashamed. Oh, taste and see that the LORD is good! Blessed is the man who takes refuge in Him!

Romans 8:28 (ESV)
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to His purpose.

Joshua 1:9 (ESV)
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.”

Proverbs 3:5–6 (ESV)
Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths.

Romans 15:13 (NIV)
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Regrets

Oohhhh. I have a few. Do you?

In the past, if I had a sleepless night, I have run through all of the regrets I have.

What a waste of energy. I feel like that is a perfect way for my day to get derailed. And, God is certainly not behind that.

In some situations, there aren’t “do overs” and sometimes our miss “takes” have some serious consequences. Sometimes we have done things simply out of ignorance. Other times, we have done things out of rebellion. Sometime we have deliberately done things or deliberately not done things without truly understanding the ramifications. Have you ever done something even when you were “old enough to know better?” Yea, me too.

How do you deal with your regrets?

Here is what I try to do:

a) realize and admit to the misstep, mistake, sin — whatever it is.
b) recognize that there may be some damage that cannot be reversed
c) if I was doing the best I knew at the time, accept that
d) ask for forgiveness from God and, if possible, from the others who were impacted
e) forgive myself
f) bring it back to God when I am stuck at any one of these steps

As humans, we make mistakes, missteps, and we sin. Sometimes we do this out of ignorance and sometimes it is very deliberate. And there are times that the aftermath of our decisions has some devastating consequences. We are sinners and we are living and working with other sinners. It can be ugly out there. It can be ugly in my heart.

But, God — He takes all of it. He can work through all of it. He can handle all of it. He can forgive all of it. He can redeem all of it.

God can.

Let Him do what only He can do. It won’t make everything rosy and perfect. But, He will bring it together in a message of love, grace, mercy, forgiveness, and redemption — over time.

Taking a look back

Sometimes our thankfulness has us in the present, which is great, But, for today, I encourage you to also reach back and consider those people and circumstances you can give thanks for in your earlier years.

I will tell you a one of mine:

My mom was pretty frustrated with church politics so there were a number of years when we weren’t in a regular, healthy, Christian congregation. My brother was an organist and started working at a Lutheran church. He needed some more singers for the choir and he invited me to come and help. I was about 12 years old at the time. I joined the youth group and confirmation classes and became a very active member of the church. My mom supported me, but she did not regularly attend. I was never shamed or questioned about my mom’s lack of involvement. And, when my brother took another organist job somewhere else, I stayed at that church and found my way there for almost every service. That church welcomed, embraced, supported, and loved my awkward teenage self. And, believe me, I was sorting through lots of things during that time. That congregation held onto me, steady as ever.

I have come to realize that not many congregations are like that. What a blessing to have been in that place at that time. How God orchestrated all that, I will never know. Why I even mattered that much to Him still amazes me. And for all of that, I am thankful. God provided for me in some amazing ways and I hold onto that, knowing His love and care for me has not lessened.

I pray that you have at least one powerful example of God’s love, care, protection, or provision in your life. It is worth remembering those times because they remind us what God does over time. Sometimes we are so used to immediate solutions that we don’t remember that God works over time.

May you be comforted and encouraged by God’s provision in your younger days and look to Him with anticipation for your future.