Tag: God’s Word

Lapse, Relapse, and Setbacks

We’ve had illness at our house since February 1st.

Today is March 16th, and I am ready for a healthy home.

I have a cough that is hanging on a bit. But I really can’t figure out if Don’s illness has morphed from the original or he was on the mend but then had a relapse.

Of course, we won’t ever really know. And it doesn’t much matter. It’s just how it is.

But, it got me thinking about lapses — in judgement.

And relapses — which don’t always involve judgement but sometimes do.

And then, of course, setbacks which cover a wide range of things from mental, physical, spiritual, financial, and more.

They are all interruptions that take you off the path you had hoped or planned to be on. And they can be frustrating.

But, there is also some learning that can happen in those times as well. Are you teachable? Are you curious? Would you like to figure out how to get closer to solving that persistent problem?

And, possibly, is this that “thorn in your flesh” that I suspect we all have? The Apostle Paul talks about his in 2 Corinthians:

Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. [2 Corinthians 12:7-10 NIV]

We are living on an Earth riddled by sin. And our sin contributes to it as well. What if this thorn in the flesh is actually something for our good — to keep us tethered to God and dependent on Him for our every day? At the very least it can be something used for our good, by God.

I am not a theologian. But I know God loves me. And I trust His work in my life.

Sometimes I cause my own grief and sometimes difficulties are thrust upon me. I lapse and relapse. I have and will continue to experience setbacks in all the ways.

But, I am confident in God’s work in and through it all. I pray you are as well!

His grace is sufficient for you, for His power is made perfect in weakness!

Cynics, Skeptics, and Discernment

A cynic is a person who habitually expects things to go wrong, or questions the value or worth of things; a person with a negative, pessimistic, or mistrustful outlook. [oed.com]

A skeptic is a person who doesn’t believe something is true unless they see evidence. Skeptics are doubters — they need to see proof before they will believe. [vocabulary.com]

A jaded person has seen enough of a particular situation to know when to move on and try to find something better, a cynic just has an underlying distrust of everything and therefore will not find anything better.

Discernment is the ability to tell things apart—to separate them, even when they appear to be very similar. People with discernment are able to make keen observations about things. Discernment is often thought to be an ability of those with wisdom or experience. It often involves making a judgment, especially about things that aren’t obvious. For example, it takes discernment to accurately judge someone’s character. [dictionary.com]

All of us have been in a situation where we have lost trust in something (an institution) or someone. How we move forward from that experience is really important.

I have certainly been cynical, skeptical, and/or jaded at different points in my life. And when a certain action brings up a feeling I have felt before, I tend to try to discern what the situation is.

I don’t want to be stuck in one of those modes because it truly is against my general nature. However, there are unhealthy people and unhealthy systems out there. During our lives we are bound to run into a number of them.

They are even in the church!

I won’t get into all the details, but, I have been up close and personal in numerous situations where “people of God” were doing some ugly things.

And somehow, my faith in God’s goodness and purity and love was not damaged.

I am so thankful!

Of course, my faith and trust in people has been affected. So, pardon me if I don’t trust so easily.

Having experiences where you come out a bit cynical, skeptical, or jaded might serve to sharpen your discernment. As long as you don’t get stuck in those places it can help you have empathy when people are there.

Let God use all experiences to grow your faith and understanding.

Taking Risks

There are all kinds of “risks” we take every day. Some are rather large and others are so tiny (at least in our own minds) that we don’t think about it. Or, our desire for whatever is on the other side is so intense we don’t mind what it takes to get there.

A toddler who is learning how to walk falls down often and sometimes gets hurt. But they usually gain enough confidence or determination until they walk. Oh boy.

Then the running starts!

As parents we have to watch them figure it out — no matter how long it takes. It is good for them to learn how to do this on their own. Even though we don’t want heads bonking on the sidewalk or a tumble down the stairs, sometimes it happens. And since the little ones don’t know the risks, we have to anticipate them on their behalf.

Adults have the capacity to see the risks that young children, teenagers, and young adults don’t often see. That is the wisdom of experience. But, just because there are risks it doesn’t mean that the desired goal should not be targeted. And, just because someone is an adult does not mean they don’t take risks.

After all, risk is in the eye of the beholder!

My prayer is that you have wise counsel around you. That your inclination to participate in “risky business” is tempered with maturity and wisdom. And that you check in with God and His Word.

Enjoy, explore, and experience life. There are risks everywhere. We can’t live padded in bubble wrap. As long as what we are after doesn’t directly oppose God’s principles, we can go forward in confidence. Even though we might tumble and fall, we will likely come away with some wisdom on the other side of the experience!

The Empty Tomb

The empty tomb is full of promises kept.

Jesus fulfilled that which we could not.

From start to finish

From beginning to end

From now until forevermore

God makes the way by providing what we need for this life and the new life to come.

Come, Lord Jesus. Be our guest. And let thy gifts to us be blessed. Amen.

He is Risen!

He is Risen, indeed!

Alleluia!

Take the time

Sometimes I want to get to “the other side” of an experience and so I try to bulldoze my way through it.

If it’s cleaning or a task or something that doesn’t involve human thoughts and emotions, it is usually doable.

I can power through laundry, shopping, cleaning….

But powering through things like a disagreement with someone I care for or working through a complex relationship situation or processing some difficult news is just not something to expect of myself or others.

These things take time.

We all need time to think, mourn, process, feel, understand, pray, and work through all of the emotions of difficult situations. Be sure to take the time to work through things and not just try to breeze through them. Sometimes, a good friend can be a great resource but don’t forget a pastor or a Christian therapist might also be an important resource.

Take the time.

And be confident in God’s work in you through the difficult circumstances. He loves you and is with you every step of the way.

Invitations

When we are invited to do something, we have an opportunity to decide if we want to participate in it.

God gives is plenty of opportunities to connect with Him — from sunrises to Scripture to intercessions to giving thanks to worship to Baptism to Holy Communion and more.

Each and every day He calls us — by our name — and invites us to be with Him and to join Him in the work He is doing.

May our ears and hearts hear the invitations and accept the gifts He offers us!

Overload

I love how God has wired us as humans.

We all have different capacities for different loads. One load is not better than the other. They are just different.

Our stations and situations in life differ wildly. We are spread out all over the globe. We might be single or in school or employed or retired.

While we don’t all travel the same path, as believers we are headed toward the same direction — growing in our relationship with Christ.

As for me, some days I am running joyfully in my spiritual life. Other days I am distracted and I wander off course. And sometimes I am just putting one foot in front of the other, burdened with the weight of struggles.

And when I hit overload, I can feel it. What are the demands I put on myself? Have I committed to too many things at once?

Now is as good a time as any to take stock of what things look like. If it is a short season — like a week — you might be able to stick it out. But longer then that and you likely need to reprioritize. What is sustainable? What is healthy? What is doable for you?

Ask God to give you the wisdom and discernment to know what are the things you should put down for a time as well as those things you should pick up. Call it a bit of spring cleaning — for your schedule.

There will always be needs around you. Ask God for discernment on those things that are really yours to do.

We can be so hard on ourselves…

Have you ever noticed that sometimes you are harder on yourself than you are on others?

Well, maybe you are also hard on others and you maybe should check on that.

Those voices that are in your head? Sometimes they aren’t kind at all. But, first you need to notice that they are there.

And those thoughts that are not loving and kind are not from God.

Does God love every thing we do and say? No, but He does not condemn us. So take note of the tone of voice floating around in your mind. Ok, it might not be audible, but there is such a thing as self-talk.

Negative thoughts make their appearance and take root at a variety of points in our lives. At some point we need to work through them and dismantle them.

But, spending more time in God’s Word and surrounding yourself with Scripture is definitely an important first step. I didn’t come up with this phrase but I think it can be helpful — it is hard to stand on Scripture when you aren’t in it.

You know how satan’s schemes. He distracts us and we even distract ourselves. Will we ever get to the bottom of it all? Maybe. Maybe not. But spending time with God, offering intercessions for others, expressing gratitude, and memorizing encouragement from Scripture is never a waste.

Write out your thoughts and prayers. Offer them up.

And give yourself the grace you are so inclined to give others!

May God grant you His perfect peace!